You cannot be compassionate with one person and not be compassionate with ALL people any more than you can be compassionate with all people and NOT be compassionate with yourself. Compassion has NO exclusions (including you) or exceptions (including you). It opens, unlocks, and removes barriers. It is care without fear, without agendas, attachments, or expectations. Compassion cannot be wished, affirmed, visualized, or prayed into being any more than a farmer can wish, affirm, visualize or pray a crop into being. He can choose the crop that he wants to harvest, but that is not enough. He must prepare the ground, plant the seeds, water and feed them, and pull the weeds. If you want to harvest compassion, you must create authentic power.
At some point in the creation of authentic power your endeavors become real to you. You realize that your emotional awareness and responsible choices are affecting the very substance of life—your ability to live outside of the control of the frightened parts of your personality and to create a life of love. When you realize, and TRULY realize, that allowing the frightened parts of your personality to do as they choose is MORE painful than challenging them, the courage that challenging them requires begins to be replaced with the gratification of challenging them and choosing responsibly instead of REACTING irresponsibly. You begin to create different consequences for yourself and others. You no longer change in order to please others, be accepted, or make yourself feel valuable and safe. You change because you want to change, because you are no longer WILLING to be controlled by the frightened parts of your personality. You change because you no longer want to experience the pain of the frightened parts of your personality and the pain of the consequences that they create.
You attract others who are doing the same, and you also see the depth of the pain of others—the pain of powerlessness and the pain of the destructive consequences that attempting to avoid it has created—because you experience that pain yourself. This is the birth of compassion.
You know how difficult it is to challenge and heal a frightened part of your personality, and because of that you know how difficult it is for others as well. You also SEE the FREEDOM that you are creating within yourself, and you want to SHARE with others how to create the freedom—how to use their experiences, including their painful experiences, to become masters of their own lives. You taste the fruits of your efforts, and you see that no one else could have given them to you. Then you see how desperately others are looking for someone or something to provide them meaning and purpose, fulfillment and joy, and how futile that search is.
That is when the need to teach, fix, impress, convert, or caretake disappears. That is when the pursuit of external power loses life; all that remains are the intentions of your SOUL, and you use them to guide you, creating at each moment with an empowered heart without attachment to the outcome. That is is the way to create compassion that continues between moments of inspiration, that endures after the sermon is over, that guides you without fail through the most difficult experiences and transforms them into some of the most rewarding."